Check out @syattfitness. He is funny and educational. All about calorie deficit which is the only way besides medicine to truly lose 10lbs.

Busy toddler wrote a great article about this: https://busytoddler.com/delay-kindergarten/

It’s less about how often, but it’s like when you go. Are you uncomfortable when you don’t go and then when you do— are you pushing or straining, any pain, etc.

There was a very good podcast recently on Mel Robins from Vanessa Marin. I would listen to it and then send it to your husband to listen to. It seems silly, but they truly don’t know and everyone is different. Communication is key and I find podcasts are helpful bc it’s not time consuming and it’s easy. Also anything with Esther Perel is very educational and sharable!