Hi! Looking for advice and experience of people who have gone through similar situation. I have been working since my kids were born, and my oldest is 8 now. I am having trouble finding the balance and motivation to continue working this high stress (tech start up) job, and miss out on my kids younger ages.
Anyone have experience giving up their high paying careers for either part time or staying home?
Scared of the adjustment financially and not having any career at all.
We have recently purged our house and I have found the limited amount of crap/toys helps. For the toys that we did keep, we practiced a 5 minute cleanup every day before our nighttime show. We put some fun music on and EVERYONE cleans up or no show. If you have a lot of little toys that go in certain baskets, we did picture labels which made it easier for the little ones who can't ready know where to put things. This is not PERFECTION and its ALWAYS a work in progress..... haha
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Are you still on a newborn nipple? If so, go up in nipple size so he can get through the bottle faster. He may be hungrier and the slower nipple isn't working. The best advice I got was to try to fit majority of your feedings in the day time, and then if they were a really hungry baby to also do a dream feed (essentially you don't unswaddle them and wake them up around 9/10 and give them a bottle in their sleep). @SnoozeBabyCo will probably have good advice as well!
Look for companies that are HQ in Australia, Canada etc. sad to say it, but they treat their mothers way better!! heard really good things about Canva, Cisco, any large established tech company usually has great benefits!
I would agree that there's no "right answer", I think it comes down to whatever gives you the least amount of anxiety. Having a faith based school vs. a school with terrible ratings. You could also transfer in to a better public school near by. I know enrollment has been low at all the Eanes elementary schools so the number of transfers they have taken in has been pretty high!!
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For me sex is much more enjoyable when the pressure of having it very often is off the table. If we have sex 1- 2 times / week it’s much easier for me to enjoy!! Also setting, mood , no kids all come in to play!!
Totally can relate, and honestly I feel like how do you know when you are truly done?!
I remind myself financially that more kids are harder, as well as leave it in gods hands. I’ve had a friend get pregnant with a vasectomy, so at the end of the day it’s out of our control!!
3 kids is wonderful and wild. Honestly people will try to convince you to have the 4th as they say it’s easier with an even number. Once you have 3 kids you just give up control, and live a little more freely!
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Our 3 year old lovedddd his ride on cars , get a good quality one that will last. Also get a remote option and 2 seater, it was a great activity outside and he became an excellent driver pretty quickly!
We pick one day / week that is a “play date” day. They can play outside in the front lawn with neighbors but official playdates are saved for one day / week. Set the boundaries early!
I feel all the things that you just wrote! I find my "breakdowns' like you described when I have over committed and I am going on weeks of weeks of no "me/us" time and then I finally lose it. My partner and I have started having weekly, or every other week date nights. Even if that means going for a walk and letting someone else put the kids to bed and feed them. This helps both of us recharge! We have the same babysitter commit to every other Wednesday.
I have done lots of research on this!! We had a Berkey, honestly it was fine but it was super annoying to constantly refill the Berkey. And if you have more than 1 kids, refilling those big bottles it seemed like that thing was empty all the time. We just installed the Aquasana Reverse Osmosis under our sink with the specific no air gap faucet. We LOVE it. That being said, if you are looking at a whole house water filter system (baths, showers etc), I would check out the following companies:
Does your kid like eggs? If so we do ALOT of hard boiled eggs, egg salad sandwiches. We also do chicken salad with crackers to dip. Hummus and cucumbers, peppers and pita. … sounds crazy but our all time favorite is salmon and lox on a bagel. My kids ate that 3x / week since they were 2!!
First of all congrats marriage counseling is a big step and I believe EVERY couple needs it!! Here are a few recommendations from my end:
I believe that’s the Casper my girlfriend has and loves it!! I am also looking into getting it, because she raves about it so much!! She is a side and stomach sleeper (as am I, so did a lot of research and that was a top one).
One thing to note if you do get it make sure you have a box spring under the mattress and don’t directly lay it on slats. If your looking for firm, It needs a sturdy box spring or will make it feel
soft and sink into it.
