I brought this topic to my therapist recently and she said, <generally speaking > When the husband goes to work he goes to work. When the wife goes to work she is working+coordinating carpool+scheduling dr appointments+ organizing playdates+ keeping up with where kids are/supposed to be and what they need.
How can you make your schedule look more like your husbands? I'm looking into hiring a "mother's helper" as they are more cost efficient but will help me stay organized and be another set of hands around the house. Stay tuned!

@SNHOLLI Great tips, especially love that you've seen a difference in parenting. I hadn't thought of that but makes perfect sense.

Hi Teachers! How can parents and room parents best support you during this school year??

Such a good question and tale as old as time. My answer: You don't.
If you're working then you have to outsource. Hire someone to fold your laundry and clean up the kitchen a couple times a week, out source lawn care, grocery shopping etc
This is the only way that I have found that it's manageable. I absolutely do not want to spend the time with my kids frantically trying to stay afloat...I doubt any of us do. It is expensive to hire help, but it's priceless for the sanity saving aspect.
You just simply cannot do two full time jobs. At least, I haven't been able to!

@monet2988 I tell my husband exactly what I want. Last year it was a beach cruiser. The year before that it was la luminere bracelets with the kid's names. I send the link and act surprise when I open it. I know better now. The first couple mother's days were not the best

GREAT question!! We are doing the same. Instagram told me to order on Thrive. I actually typed "seed oil free snacks" into amazon today and some great options came up. I have no idea if they are actually seed oil free, so will update in a few days when everything comes in.

oh yes, I have a lot of experience in this area but would love to keep learning from other moms too!
There is a device called a buzzy bee that vibrates above where the blood draw is done and it's very distracting for the kiddo to get their mind off of the draw. Additionally, numbing cream from either your pediatrician or over the counter-make sure to put on at least 30min before and we use saran wrap to wrap it up, give the phlebotomist a couple options so we do both arms just in case. Depending on the kid either tell them right before so their anxiety doesn't build or give them time to process a couple days in advance-you know your child best on this one!
Good luck!! I know it's such a thing. I'll try and think of our other tips but those are my main two.